how to be a more intentional and effective parent

Being a parent can involve making some tough choices. These can involve your children as well as your partner. It’s important to think about what’s going to be best for your family in the long term, even if the choice can seem like the worst one you need to make. Let’s explore some key examples of the times when you will need to make the hard choices as a parent and why they can still be the right decision. 

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The Relationship

One of the things that you’re going to have to think about is the relationship between the parents of the family. One thing that we want to make extremely clear is that staying together for the kids is not a good enough reason to be in this relationship. It might seem like the best and the most logical thing that you can do, but it isn’t. It is far better that you have two separate households that coparent successfully and happily, than to all live under one roof where everyone is miserable. 

Do not feel as though you can’t let go of the relationship simply because you are a family. You will always be a family no matter what, but that doesn’t mean you have to be bound to your partner forever.

Custody

If you are coparenting, then you need to have a custody arrangement in place that you both agree to. When you first start coparenting, it’s best if you get the advice of solicitors in family law to understand what is fair etc. You can have an agreement between yourselves in which you don’t involve the law or anything legal if you want to, but if you go down this route and something goes wrong, then who knows what is going to happen as there is no protection for you.

Pushing Your Kids

Next, you might need to think about pushing your kids more. Parents these days often shy away from pushing their kids too hard these days and that’s understandable. The problem with doing this is that it can leave them in situations where they are struggling under the level of pressure. However, if you don’t push your kids, then they may also struggle to reach their full potential and you don’t want that either. So, this is very much a balancing act that you will likely need to work out with your partner. If you do feel as though your child is falling behind, giving them the right push can get them back on track. 

We hope that you have found this article helpful, and now see some of the choices that you’re going to have to make, even if it’s hard. There are going to be times in which you don’t want to make some of these choices for your family, but if not you, then who? As one of the parents in this family, it’s your job to make these choices, even when you don’t want to. We wish you the very best of luck.

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